Divorce Mediation... What is it?

The prospect of ending your marriage can be devastating. Divorce mediation is an effective approach to helping couples resolve issues that are important to you both as part of creating or finalizing separate living arrangement and deciding what is best for the both of you and your children.

In mediation, you and your soon to-be ex-spouse meet with a neutral third party, the mediator, and with their help, you work through the issues you need to resolve so the two of you can end your marriage as amicably and cost effectively as possible. The areas covered include but are not limited to the following:

  • Clarification of personal needs and goals

  • Increased self esteem and self confidence

  • Improved personal relationships

  • Development of positive coping strategies and tools for healthy living

  • Stress Management Solutions

  • The mediator will not serve as an advocate for any party, make judgements about who is “right” or “wrong” or impose any decisions on the parties. It is the mediators job to keep the lines of communication open, brainstorm ideas, and assist the couple in their decision making process.

    Mediation is confidential. You and your spouse will be able to settle the conflict between you in a way that helps you to work together as parents. Mediation brings about better ways to communicate, if only for the sake of the children, and make future decisions easier. The focus is on decisions about the future, not past behavior.

    Generally mediation sessions are scheduled to last one and a half hours each, and may take anywhere from 3 to 10 sessions. The amount of sessions will vary depending on issues needing to be covered and willingness of the parties to come to an agreement on these issues that is equitable for both of you and your willingness to do what is in the best interests of your children.

    Your mediation costs will be based on a per session fee and not covered by insurance. The cost of mediation is generally less than if you each hired lawyers to represent you in your divorce without mediation. You will still need to file for divorce in court. Consulting with an attorney during the mediation process and filing in court is recommended. However, by using mediation, it is likely that you will use fewer legal services and the court experience will be less.

    Please feel free to contact Diane L. Levy, LCPC, 708-217- 1348, to schedule a consultation or a first mediation session.